It takes great courage to face opposition and stand your ground. Fighting for our truth against a sea of others united against you is so romantic, so difficult and yet so beautiful that it is the premise of 90% of the stories coming out of Hollywood.
The challenge of the individual is truly an enduring story that Americans love hearing because it is part of the American cultural topography.
7/wands is about holding your ground, being defiant in the face of adversity and fighting off those who seek to gain what you have worked so hard for.
While it is something we all love to hear about, the underdog-hero fighting against great opposition, we often do not commit to speaking our truth when our own feet are put to the fire. Many times the pressure to conform or give in is so great that we do not feel it is worth the fight.
One of my favorite quotes (though I do not know who coined it) is, "Which hill do you want to die on?" By picking our battles, fighting for what is truly important to us, and letting go of other petty squabbles we gain in nobler qualities such as discernment, wisdom and self knowledge.
1. What disagreements are you currently engaged in that you really should let go of?
2. In what areas of your life do you need to take more of a stand? What is stopping you from doing so?
3. In the areas where you need to take a stand, what are you prepared to lose? What is worth the fight?
4. How do you deal with bullies, passive aggressive or controlling behaviour by others?
6/10/2013 04:35:52 am
The last time I pulled the Seven of Wands for myself, some Limp Bizkit (signs of my misspent youth) song lyrics popped into my head, "Heavy is the head that wears the crown. I love to be the one to disappoint you when I don't fall down. You don't understand when I'm attempting to explain because you know it all and I guess things will never change. You might need my hand when you're falling in your hole. Your disposition I'll remember when I'm letting go." I have to remember that not all relationships or situations are functional, or even meant to be permanent, and while sometimes compromise is good, sometimes sticking to our guns is the right thing, too.
6/10/2013 02:47:01 pm
Thats right, Amanda! I think especially as women we have been socialized to try to make nice (or at least passive aggressive) for the sake of peace but there are times when sticking to our guns has to do with who we are and that is not compromise-able.
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M.S. in Organizational Psychology and Leadership