This past weekend I spent my time gallivanting about at the New York Renaissance Fair. Now, if you have spent any time at a Ren fair you know that there are going to be at least a few psychic type readers on hand peddling their intuitive wares. From what I understand, these readers are usually well established because the competition is stiff to get a placement there.
I had never gone to this particular Ren fair before and was utterly astonished to see that this place had not one, not two but three…THREE alleys chock full of every type of intuitive reader you could think of. There were swami looking gentlemen, and hippy looking ladies, and gypsy caravans all squashed up against one another vying for your attention. Do you want juju work? Tarot? Palm? Bone casting? This place had it all.
So how do we choose the right one for us? Below is my handy dandy guide for finding the right Intuitive Professional for YOU!
Looks do not matter but professionalism does.
I have had astoundingly good readings from people who did not look the part, meaning they had perhaps office casual clothes, a scarcity of crystals and looks just like your neighbor across the street. Or they did look exactly the part of the stereotypical “gypsy reader” with kohl slashed around her eyes, a great mass of long black hair enveloped in incense; I have had great readings from all kinds of demographic, cultural and socio-economic backgrounds. Largely, the wrapping does not measure the results you will get from a reading.
Being a professional, however does. Is the reader well-presented, is her phone off, is she on time, and is she present and actively listening to you? Is the place where you are getting your reading clean, nicely presented and was all communication leading up to the appointment professional? For some reason, readers often get a pass in areas that would not fly anywhere else; there seems to be a social understanding that psychic advisors are too flighty, less held by the bounds of Earth, or what have you, to be as professional as other people you pay. This is not true. Hold Tarot readers to the same standard that you hold anyone you hire.
Ask for qualifications, testimonials, history as a psychic, Tarot reader, clairvoyant
Did this person just start up last week? What has she done in her field and how has she contributed to it? What is her online presence and where are her reviews? What is her education and training in? What are her ethics and is there a refund process if you are unsatisfied? It is perfectly ok to ask or look for any and all of this information.
There seems to be another social convention that the best readers are the ones who are totally unlisted, who are only via word of mouth, and do not have a legitimate business presence. Hogwash, I say! While there are plenty of amazing intuitive readers who are found this way BUT that does not mean that those who do have legitimate businesses are not as good. In fact, the ones who are maintaining a legitimate business are paying taxes, contributing to business organizations and working very hard to create a professional business. All that hard work translates into investment in YOU, our beloved and cherished clients.
How do you feel?
As I was walking down one ally there was a reader at the end who was sitting at her table and despite the lines at other reader’s tables hers was a lonely one. She was sitting there with a scowl on her face giving off waves of negative energy. There was no way I was going to sit down and have a reading from her.
Listen to your feelings as you first meet your clairvoyant helper, are you put at ease or on guard? Do you feel you have a compassionate, sympathetic ear or do you feel you are just another walking dollar bill? Do you feel trusting or suspicious, how about comfortable or ill at ease? These feelings, those split second gut reactions are your own intuition letting you know if this is a fit.
Do not, repeat, do not ignore these messages. Feeling slightly uncomfortable does not mean that the magic is working...it just means you are uncomfortable and there is a reason for that, find out why.
Look at the Example
There are many readers out there who (to put it bluntly) lives are a hot mess. They find themselves attracted to Tarot reading because they are unable to keep a regular job, hold down a career or otherwise interact with mainstream society due to dysfunction or personal trauma. If your reader cannot keep her life together, how is she going to be able to help you with yours?
Everybody has ups and downs in their life and while your reader doesn't have to present themselves as a Bodhisattva (and if they do…run!!) they need to uphold what they preach. I am not going to see a dentist who has bad teeth, a mechanic with a jalopy, or a pet psychic with no pets, and neither should you.
A lack of fit does not always mean that the reader is bad
Let’s say you had a reading from someone who was professional, well-presented, and you had an initial great feeling but the reading was not helpful for you. This does not always mean that the reader in general is not a good intuitive. Just like with hairdressers, car mechanics, doctors; there needs to be a synergy between you and the person helping you and that synergy is often unique to each pairing. What is not right for you might be astoundingly good for another person and vice versa. If you felt the fit was not right, talk to your intuitive consultant about it and listen to what she says,she needs your feedback, too. She might even refer you to another reader who is a better fit. More communication is always, always better than less.
And there you have it, my quick and dirty guide to finding the right Tarot or intuitive professional for you.
Have you ever had a nightmare reader, or did you ignore your gut feeling only to regret that you did?
Juicy stories down here!
A nightmare reading. Once I had a very specific question about a certain relationship. I sat down with a tarot reader who billed herself as psychic. I told her briefly about my topic, and she proceeded to give me a reading that was totally irrelevant. There was literally nothing in it that had anything to do with me or my life. After she collected her fee, she dumped a heavy load of her personal judgement on me. Dire predictions about the relationship I was in, condemnation of my love, commands about how I had to dump that person "or else." Worse, I saw her again at the home of a mutual friend and she remembered me. She remembered my love question and she asked about it in front of other people.
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