“My reader was telling me what I already know.” What is going on here and why does it matter? Below are 4 reasons why a client might be getting known information from a reader:
However, a reader who is talking about immediate issues: the micromanaging boss, the still living at home adult child, the husband who has been distant-- these things, while they may be “what I already know” can be instantly confirmed for accuracy illustrating a clear connection between the reader and the sitter. Doing this without being vague takes far more skill and confidence on the part of the reader, and in my mind, is the most accurate way of illustrating that the Tarot is in fact speaking to the sitter’s life and not just making up a bunch of you know what. #2 There is a mismatch between sitter expectations and the experience being offered by the reader.
In a larger cultural context, there exists a kind of showman style of some intuitives that has largely dominated the popular imagination and expectation about what one should expect from a reading session, “I feel someone over here in this corner, a purple sweater and a daisy, who is this message for?” if the sitter has an expectation that this style is the norm, that they will be wow’d with information about the mystery of their lives, then a reader who is verifying known information may not live up to their presession expectations. Does that mean the reader is bad or perhaps just a bad fit for what the sitter wanted? It is important for the sitter to research what the intuitive does and how she does it. Read her reviews; what do they say about her reading and intuitive style, these are often clues to see if her style is a match. Just like with any other service practitioner, as the consumer it is important to find out if the provider will meet our base expectations before we buy. #3 The sitter has specific expectations about the session.
Sessions come from a conversation between our higher selves, our God principal, or subconscious and our own inner knowing- we cannot possibly dictate to all of Them what we want as often They have their own ideas about that and that idea is to get the sitter to pay attention to certain known aspect of their lives. #4 The current situation is emphatically more important, it is the lynchpin unlocking everything else.
That right there is a Spiritual Intervention, sure it’s all stuff the client knows but her Higher Self is so absorbed with looking at the current issue that She absolutely ignores the stated question. Her future lies directly within the resolution of a current scenario and her Higher Self is far more motivated in helping to resolve an urgent issue than alleviating anxiety about the future. An unscrupulous reader in this scenario would just give the sitter what she wants, “I see that in 6 months you will find the man of your dreams, he will be tall, he will be accomplished, he will love you, its coming for you!!!”
O, how much easier it is to be a reader to tell sitters what they hope/desire/wish to hear! So much more spiritual labor goes into being a conduit for truth, delivering the tough news, the news that will hurt and be unremarkable and necessary and needed and ultimately transform a sitter's very life. It is tough being the "bearer of bad news" or telling the client that the session will not be about what she was hoping for-- making people take their spiritual medicine is tough work! I get clients who have seen a string of readers before me, “But they said he will come back but he never did.” How hard it can be as a reader to state the obvious and the painful, “Darling heart, he is not. Let’s look at healing that heart of yours.” Sometimes a reading that speaks to “what I already know” will be the most honest and profound reading a client has ever had… if she can check her assumptions at the door and open to the incredible mystery/ordinary that is a good Tarot session.
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Over time, I have learned to mark my calendar and back up my hard drive because it seems that the Mercury Retrograde seems to hit me hard. As a triple Gemini (sun, moon and mercury all in Gemini) I seem to get particularly hard hit during these times. Last year, I had my laptop break, my car break down, the electrical wiring in my house collapse all costing me over 5k in repairs! For me, the retrograde of Mercury is no joke and I appear to feel its effects about a week before it actually goes in rewind. Mercury is about to move backwards on June 7th and lasting throughout the rest of the month. Remember what I said about it hitting me early? Well, I fell down the stairs a few days ago and sprained BOTH ankles! When Mercury is in retrograde we may experience snafus in communication with others, problems with travel, and electrical equipment failures. Go gently, back up your work, and of course, get a Tarot reading about it! Mercury Retrograde Spread Read the Spread is read right to left 1. Will the retrograde affect my communication with others? 2. Will the retrograde affect my electronics? 3. Will the retrograde affect my travel? If any of these is a positive response then proceed with further clarifying questions. To help you with your reading I have conducted a spread on moi: Using the Wild Uknown I proceeded to ask the questions below and got: 1. Justice for Communication (looks like there are no issues in this area this time around...yay) 2. Judgement reversed for electronics (uh oh looks like a problem here! The Wild Uknown showing me the Judgement card which has birds leads me to believe it is most likely a car issue-- something that affects movement) 3. Ace of Pentacles reversed is definately giving me further insight since this question covered travel and Ace pf Pentacles reversed is often a loss of money, i.e. more expensive repairs! grrr. Step Two: Cut a hole in the box... oh, wait... wrong instructions, ahem... Cross the first card with this second, action card, this can be none or all three depending on your initial responses. 1. What can I do to block the effect of the retrograde in this area? Pulling aside the two 'trouble cards' I then cross them with the blocking element, what can I do to block this energy? Chariot crossing Judgement FURTHER indicates that this is going to be a car issue or travel related break down of some sort and 10 of swords crossing the Ace is basically my deck shaking his head and saying, "Girl you are not going to get out of this so do not buy those shoes, inflate your savings account! Check your AAA membership. too!" Sometimes there really isn't much we CAN do, but the heads up is very helpful. Step Three: Finally pull 3 more cards below the initial card and the crossed card as the final outcome 1. What will be the outcome of the affected area once I take minimizing actions? First I have the Sun, the Devil, and finally 6 of Wands: While it is an annoying inconvenience it really does work out in the end without too much heartache. I have been thinking to get a new car for awhile now, and I believe that is the function of the Devil in this layout.
Second, Page of wands (that's me I am usually Page or Queen depending), 4 of wands and Strength: further reinforcing that I will be really just fine, no personal harm done and it should all be ship shape by the end of the retrograde. While there was nothing I could really "do" in the context of this reading, it is helpful to know what I need to be aware of so now at least it will not be such a glaring surprise. There you have it, my Mercury Retrograde spread! Do share the results of your spread in the comments below. I hope the retrograde goes easy for you! The Tarot has 4 Queens and each one is different in personality, outlook and expression. Which one are you? Take the survey to find out and post your results below! |
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